Ever been angry? So angry that you could spend an hour or two ranting to yourself or loved ones (or on Facebook)?
Of course you have. We all get angry at times. It’s our body giving us a Status Update about something that happened that we didn’t like. About a thing in the past! So why do we stay angry then?
Well, it’s my belief we’ll stay angry until we Acknowledge the anger (“OK, thanks for letting me know, Anger”), Accept it (“Anger, you were indeed appropriate for what happened there”) and then Align our thoughts and actions with how we want to feel next (“Anger, it’s not you, it’s me. I’ve got a thing for Joy and we’re meeting up very soon …”).
Maybe you’ve held onto some anger for years about a particular thing or someone. What good is it doing you? If we consider it within the TMTWGR philosophy, there’s an “opportunity cost” to being Angry for a long period (what could you spend that time on instead?). So it kind of makes sense to Acknowledge, Accept and then Align with some new feeling instead, right?
Now I’m not saying you have to do that. It’s your call! But I like making use of the following couple of phrases I made up a few years ago:
“Don’t become your feelings. Become aware of your feelings.”
“Don’t act how you feel; act how you want to feel.”
Thanks for reading! (Hopefully this post didn’t rile anyone up!)
In the final months of the job I was doing when I discovered the TMTWGR philosophy, I uttered those words in a team meeting and hoped my co-workers would take note. I can’t remember the exact conversation, but it could have been anything because the words work in so many situations.
Anyway, they absolutely did take note. But not really in the way I expected. On my last day of working there, I received a copy of TIME magazine as one of my leaving presents, with those words on a Post-It note stuck on the front.
If you’re reading this now, guys, I want to thank you for that humour, and I really hope you did take note on a deeper level too. ❤️
“Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why
It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time
It’s something unpredictable, but in the end it’s right
I hope you had the time of your life”
I’ve liked this song ever since I saw a live performance on TFI Friday almost 20 years ago back in October 1997 and I bought it the next day at work (I was a Saturday boy at a local record store – shout out to my Our Price family!). Within a week, I’d accumulated the entire Green Day back catalogue and I had learned to play this song fairly well on my acoustic guitar. They are still one of my favourite bands to this day.
Those lyrics have proven so true for me in the years since!
“You’ve got to grind, grind, grind
At that grindstone
Though child’ood slips like sand through a sieve
And all too soon they’ve up and grown
And then they’ve flown
And it’s too late for you to give”
The turning point for Mr Banks in Mary Poppins is when Bert manages to get through to him. The change in the man is amazing afterwards. I see so much of myself in pre-epiphany Mr Banks and Bert, as they represent being not aligned with TMTWGR and being aligned with TMTWGR, respectively.
The companion movie called Saving Mr Banks demonstrates how the main message was always about Mr Banks as opposed to Mary Poppins. Definitely worth a look.
Just over ten years ago, I had an epiphany that became the life philosophy that I’ve been trying to live ever since: Time Makes The World Go Round (spending your time wisely is the key to happiness and money is just an expensive distraction).
Ten years on, I reckon I managed to stick to the philosophy about half of the time, and this has made all of my time useful for supporting the TMTWGR philosophy itself: when I was living it, I was very happy; when I was living in a way not aligned with it (putting money first), I was miserable.
Now, in August 2017, I’ve launched my own limited company, Time Makes The World Go Round Ltd, and committed to living the TMTWGR philosophy 24/7, and sharing as much as possible with others … like your good self.
I’ve chosen to do the sharing mostly in blog form to make it relatively easy to write and easy to consume. But I also have a Facebook page, Twitter account, Instagram and YouTube account too (complete with theme tune!).
On a related note, it is my intention to never put a money-barrier in front of any of my content (i.e. keep things free to access), so that anyone who might wish to spend their time reading it can do so.
Hopefully the time you spend here will be worthwhile to you!